Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
It’s a common theme across the majority of cultures that protecting ones ‘face’ (not your actual face, but your self as in how you’re viewed) is one of our highest subconscious priorities.
Calling someone out in public for bad behaviour is the quickest way to nip 9/10 situations in the bud. Most people will be mortified, they’ll be embarrassed, they’ll be panicked because they probably weren’t expecting anything other than quiet submission.
Be bold and be brave, because we live in a world where most people don’t expect it ergo we can take advantage of it.
/POWER IN TALK, 3RD YEAR LINGUISTICS MODULE
international womens day today
dont forget to include trans women, disabled women, women of colour, non-binary people who partly identify as women, queer women, all women.all of them. i don’t want to see any derailed posts today about shit like “international mens day” it doesnt fly like that
For those of who who don’t already know, my name is Khadijat Yussuff, and I’m (supposed to be) a sophomore at Carnegie Mellon University studying Cognitive Science. Recently, my mom and I fell on some hard times, and our inability to pay the outstanding fee for Fall 2013 made it impossible to continue my education until Spring 2015, despite scholarships and taking out loans.
Growing up in the Bronx, I’ve been blessed to have a hardworking mother who taught me to always try my hardest, and I was lucky enough to go to school free of charge so that I had hope to succeed, unlike many other kids in my neighborhood. I do realize that sometimes, we all need to ask for a little help, and I’ve had really supportive friends who I owe a lot to.
In the past 3 months, I’ve been trying my absolute hardest to not only take care of myself (rent, bills, the usual) but to also take care of my mother in NYC, who is recovering from a stroke and in severe need of medical help as well. Unfortunately, the 2 jobs I have only cover so much, and I’m doing my best to get some extra money for the both of us while trying to create items for an online store I hope to open at the end of 2014 that I hope will generate a small but steady revenue.
With this page, I’m hoping that you can find it in your heart to give anything you can, no matter how small, to help me complete my education at Carnegie Mellon, and to take care of my mother.
Your generosity is much appreciated!
Please help her.
The danger of returning to childhood games.
can u keep it down i am trying 2 reed
Unknown origin. Possibly from Welsh pen (“head”) and gwyn (“white”), or from Latin pinguis (“fat”)
I have never seen a picture of a heard of a penguin with a white head — it’s always a white tummy and black…. rest of the body.
And just imagine being that explorer that says “Hey that animal looks kinda fat! We should call it fat!” And then bam it becomes official science.
the non binary petition has only like jjust over 2 weeks and only has nearly 22,000 signs, but i dont think people realize that 22,00 is not enough and we need to get to 100,000 immediately
you are being depended on to sign this to help non binary people and give them basic rights
cmon do it
here is a link to the petition, please please please sign/signal boost!
Alright tumblr fam! We’re almost there!
I have 8 days left to raise $2,348 for top surgery. I can’t do this without your help and I really appreciate anything you can give! I’ve also created tons of fun perks (like handmade stationary sets! and zines!) which you can claim on my donation page right here:
For those of you who don’t know me yet, here’s a little more information!
Hey lovelies! I’m Myles and I’m a fem transsexual man hoping to have top surgery in March. Because of the unexpectedly early surgery date, I’m now rushing to fundraise and could really use your help. This procedure is both life-saving and life-changing for me, so please donate if you can! Every little bit helps and I am so deeply grateful for anything you can give.
Being “visibly trans” has made it very difficult to get and maintain jobs. I’ve been let go from two jobs already for being trans, and I currently work two jobs just to cover my rent. I’ve tried hard to save money for surgery and I managed to scrape together the $500 deposit the surgeon requires. But the $8,320 price tag for this surgery is way out of my range.
I’ve struggled with dysphoria for a long time, finding myself in psychiatric programs because of the depression and anxiety it’s caused me, and I’ve been blessed to find so much relief since starting hormones. Recognizing myself in the mirror for the first time is an incredible experience.
But I am still struggling everyday with having large breasts. I bound my chest for years, causing myself severe back pain. Now I walk around in the world with my unbound chest and receive stares, harassment, and threats of violence nearly everywhere I go. This surgery will help me to feel safe in public and at home in my own body.
I know it’s super cheesy but I feel like I’ve been in a little cocoon all through my transition. For me this surgery is going to help me burst out of my cocoon and finally see my wonderful butterfly self reflected in the mirror! Please help me make this a reality by donating and by sharing this campaign far and wide!
Thx for reading, you are all angels <3 <3 <3
P.s. here’s a cute little vid where I talk about the fundraiser and then sing and show you bby pics of me :3
Getting so close eee! Just $2,000 left to raise and only a few days to do it. Sorry for bombarding you with so many posts about this fundraiser, I promise it will be over very soon and we can return to my blog’s regularly scheduled cats and selfies.
Until then, please do keep boosting if you can! Thank you thank you thank you!
Signal boosting to all my followers - Myles is so awesome and this surgery would be truly life changing and life saving. Please consider giving, and if you can’t give, signal boost!
In 1967, Kathrine Switzer was the first woman to enter and complete the Boston Marathon as a numbered entry. She registered under the gender-neutral name of “K.V. Switzer”. After realizing that a woman was running, race organizer Jock Semple went after Switzer shouting, “Get the hell out of my race and give me those numbers.” however, Switzer’s boyfriend and other male runners provided a protective shield during the entire Marathon. These photographs taken of the incident made world headlines.
“Everyone has flaws. No one can judge me until they get to know me. I’ve been through a lot. I’m about to turn 28. I’ve been on my own since I was 16. I’ve been kind of homeless for a long time. I was incarcerated for almost three years.”
“Car chase. On my birthday. I made the moves and everything. It was like a movie. So I’ve been through a lot. Right now I’m at a transitional house, like a group home. I live in a room by myself. And I work at a dry cleaner. That’s about it.”
“How did you become homeless so young?”
“My mother kicked me out of the house. I was being a bad boy, I was coming home late, I was smoking weed. It’s their house, so if you don’t go by their rules and regulations, eventually they’re going to kick you out. I went to my cousin’s house and lived with him for a while. I went to a shelter when I was 17. Then I rented a room, then I was in a program, then got incarcerated on and off for two and a half years, then I lived with my mother for a little bit, then got into this group home where I live now.”
“What’s the next step?”
“They’re trying to give me independent housing. I’m waiting for that. I have somewhat of a mental disability; I’m bipolar. It’s not that serious, but I’ve been to psychiatric units. My struggle kind of messed with me mentally. Being homeless messes with you. You start to act differently. You don’t care about life. You think you’re hopeless. But there’s hope. You just have to keep a positive attitude and move forward.”
“Do you regret anything you’ve done, or do you think you’ve learned from it?”
“I don’t regret anything. It’s part of destiny. You go through it and you learn from it. You can either stay where you are and keep doing the same thing or you try to get better. These are my experiences. They’ve made me who I am today. I’m not proud or arrogant, but everything happens for a reason. I actually converted to Islam in jail. I used to be gang affiliated, but I changed my life for the better. So you’re going to write all this?”
"Yes. Do you mind?"
"No, but I would like you to include religion in there because there is a misconception about Islam. People think Islam is about violence. It’s not. It’s about peace and equality, and trying to do good and help people. The people who do violent things in the name of Islam go against it. It says in the Quran that if you kill one person, it’s the same as killing humanity. I became more of a humble person, more of a people person; I became more relaxed, more patient, more grateful. I know I was bad, but the worst people can become the best people.”